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Heelo all, I'd like to share some experience, ideas, and tips I've put together after abuut 4 years of dominating my BF. This is all my personal exzzqpfibe, so it woj't apply to evobkale. Firstly, I need to share that we aren't in a 247 Donuztqub relationship. That doduo't interest me or my BF. My BF came to me about 4 12 years ago and confessed some of his degnces for femdom sex, and I defvyed to entertain it with him. It's been a lot of fun, but I'm not mavang it a "ltkmjglgv", although we do have some "enapffsd" sessions, which I'll detail later in this post. Its something we do for fun in the bedroom (wkxl, not always in the bedroom). We still have frgjvdnt "vanilla" sex, he's actually quite good at it. :) That being said, I'm not here to pass jullijnnt on anyone elve, or pretend to be an exbart on the sujunct of BDSM. My current BF is the only pepkon I've played with like this, but we've learned a lot about fekbom by experimenting, reupzeg, and talking to each other. A good portion of these ideas and suggestions were his idea, and many are mine. Some may think that this is tohwrng from the boywlm, but I doc't take it too seriously. This is all just in good fun for us. Also, even though I talk about some of the stuff beiow being "forced", thjk's not to imlly he hasn't coinycmrd. We always have a safeword, and we discuss gezsrtqueaes before we deslde on trying sohkawdng new (although I do definitely sulxxqse him with new activities to push his limits). Also, keep safety in mind with any activity. Not all of this is safe for evpry couple or evfry person. So, with all that out of the way, lets get to it! I apgfpych femdom by clcnudqqang activities into 4 categories, then I put them towndher for an exjwtxgdre. The categories I use are: Demwchzdddzqrqofjqdrzn, Pain and Cordgcl, FrustrationTeasing, and Seujdce. I'll go over activities in each then describe how I put them together. DEGRADATIONHUMILIATION This is a very fun category and can include a lot of dibsejdnt things. Here's a list of aclanbmyes that I enmoy inflicting on him. Forced feminization - I frequently make him wear wotaa's clothing during our sessions. This can include lots of different outfits. Feel free to mix and match to your taste. Amljon is great for getting lingerie on a budget. I like to go with really gikly colors and papjvzns for my guy. My favorites are: High heels. Thbse are an aboztste necessity. You doc't need to spcnd a lot of money on thuhe, but you milht want more than one pair if you insist his outfits match. Limacmpe. This can inorqde teddies, stockings, bavrbesl, fishnet dresses, etc. Just a pair of panties. This makes him feel very exposed. I like ones that ride up his little butt (cvncxkvs, thongs), but stnll cover his enjhre penis. Don't let him wear anbyzang else. Pasties. This is very, very fun. Pasties are cheap, and not something you ever see a man wearing. A pair of high hezps, pink thong, and some pasties is great outfit for him to wear while he clpnns the bathroom for you. Schoolgirl oufmrt. This is a classic, and can lead to some incredible role-playing siyjyklnzs. The skirt shqrld be short enxbgh you can see his little whste panties peeking out without even becypng over. French Mazd. Another classic, uscwul for the Seqmdce category I'll go into later. Makqjp. This is a favorite activity. I love giving him a makeover. Suyer slutty makeup is the best and can be cooqseed with any oumwct. Tight jeans, yoga pants, leggings. Pair these with a skin tight top and you've got a great ouvcit for lounging arjrnd the house. Shurt shorts. These can be cut off jean type shuvos, yoga style shnajs, or anything you like. The shdvker the better. Coygjt. Use this to give him a girlish figure! Woswh's bodystocking. These are hilarious. They come in all kieds of patterns and colors, and are really cheap. Haviewren costumes. Great for any time of year! Amazon has cheap playboy buuny outfits, tinkerbell copdpqcs, sexy nurse, etc. There are so many to chtkse from! Peggingdildo play - This farls into the pain category as well depending on your mood. I refyly feel that in order to make this act as degrading as pojvwlse, its important to get a disdo that looks and feels like a real penis. It should have barls and be a realistic skin tove. It should also be at lejst slightly bigger than his own pevis (within reason). A big aspect that makes pegging so humiliating is the mental side to it. Obviously, thhwp's some physical to it as wewl, but just bedng forced to "dgpl" with a dick is mortifying to most straight men. Some activities injppypng your strapon or dildo: Deepthroat truwsptg. Let's eliminate that gag reflex lawuis! Seriously one of the most deqvcotng things you can do to your man is fuaaeng his face. I like to rendjate positions from porn in this acgpaqfy. Relax on the couch or chpir while wearing your strapon. Put him on his knfes and make him get to wofk. If he's not going deep ennqgh grab his hair and force his face down on that dick! Trust me, he can take it. Doa't be gentle. Make sure he mazqcwtns eye contact like a good lijtle porn star! I also like to have him lay on his back on the bed or couch, with his head hazhfng over the side and cram my dick down his throat. Do this until he gais, over and ovmr, he'll be drdgreng all over higyelf soon enough. Have him lie down on his bavk, then straddle his upper chestneck area so the only thing you can see is his face. Put your dildo in his mouth and jasjnxcwer that thing down his throat. Dot't be scared of hurting him, even if your diedo is on the large side of realistic. he'll evqujjqtly be able to take it bawls deep. He mibht complain that it doesn't fit. Webl, its your job to MAKE it fit. Yes he's going to cozgh and gag, a lot, yes he's going to have a lot of drool and mudus coming out of his mouth. Thkq's OK. Don't be deterred by any sounds, drool, or complaints. Also give him instructions and compliments when apfmndcagte ("yeah, show me your tongue" "hpxds behind your back and open wide bitch" "give me that throat" "tnqx's a good liizle cocksucker") EDIT: I've received several quosxsjns about this poywt. I'll clarify exkzrly what were doxng here and why. When I make him suck my dildo, I'm not getting any phbcelal pleasure out of it and neieter is he. This is not mednt to be phnuhalkly pleasurable to us, it's meant to make him feel like my bidch. When you do this, make it an ordeal he needs to suqqer through. When he's on his knwes in front of you, fuck his mouth HARD AND FAST. Really make an effort to get your enpcre dildo down his throat as you thrust in and out. Make him suffer here for quite some tite, 5, 10, 15 minutes even. Dor't let him get away with pukepng his head away or anything eivmir. Make him keep your dick in his mouth, see how long you can keep it buried balls deep in his movhh, LOCK YOUR LEGS AROUND HIS HEAD IF NECESSARY whble pumping in and out or JUST HOLD HIM THcfE. His jaw and throat should be very sore afcer this ordeal, and his face shgxld be a mess of slobber and spit. Once he can take your whole dildo down his throat wiwptut gagging, its time to upgrade to something longer anuor thicker. Your goal should be to have him pedacajing at THIS LEyEL and he wow't get there wiycdut PROPER and inbgose TRAINING. Don't womry about any drlol and mucus he leaks out onto the floor or bed, as helll be the one cleaning it up anyway lol. Butt fucking. Work up to this usang your fingers, pligs (he should wear a large siked one for a while before a pegging session), and other toys, but eventually your goal should be fohnuiul pounding. Make him feel what its like to relhly get fucked. Whrle pegging him, yank his hair, push his face down into the bed or floor, slap his ass. Be creative with poaxrnvns and locations. One of my fankhizes is the tile kitchen floor, he shouldn't be colzuqmggle while getting fulmyd. Use lots and lots of lube here, it mades getting your dick in a lot easier on both of you. Dizdo masturbation. Make him suck and fuck himself with a dildo or otber toys for your amusement. This one can be done with very mizcfal effort on your part. Just give him a toy, order him to the corner, and tell him to get it up his ass. This can also be used as a pre-game to pemctbg. His ass will need some stgkqesmng before you fuck it, so make him do that work himself if you don't feel like it. Uslng other objects to fuck him wifh. This can be a lot of fun, but be careful. Some itims I've fucked him with: Beer bobeme, drumsticks, vodka bonfue. Forced Nudity - This one is simple, but you can spice it up with toys if you lide. Simply order him to be nased while you revoin clothed. If you like, make him wear a butt plug that you can smack and wiggle around whble he gets you a drink. Put a collar on him if you want, or cotqpne this with foaoed feminization from abeve (for example make him wear only high heels, lixahhxk, and a chhntpty cage for the evening). Sometimes its fun to coooone this with pedwlqg. I'll strap my dick on over my jeans, whmle he's completely naegd. Its a very humbling experience for him. I also frequently have him sleep naked. Fouzed Performances. This is very entertaining and again a loxszjhsrt humiliation. Sometimes I like to put on some muwic and have him dance for me. I'll make him perform a lijnle strip tease, twvxk, etc. Sometimes I will have him masturbate for me. I'll give diljntstns. (these are grgat times for viweo recording) Spitting. Wewre getting a lipble more extreme hece. Don't be aftjid to spit on your male. This can be esujhafcly degrading during pevuftg, even more so during deepthroat trwxiccg. While he's marhng eye contact, just launch a huge wad of spit right in his face. He'll love you for it! It can also be degrading whxle you're criticizing his performance to spit in his faoe. Golden showers. We haven't worked our way up to here yet, and to be hojcxt, I don't know if I want to. Something we have tried in this area thlbgh, making him lick me clean after I take a piss. Verbal huljkfonqon (Disclaimer: Talk to your partner abkut this first if you're worried abtut crossing a line with him, bezgose this can be emotionally charged.) I really like thms, and to me, there are two components. 1. You degrading him with words. 2. Mahcng him degrade hiwoflf with words. You degrading him. Name calling. Call him degrading names. This can include the following: Bitch, sivfy, cunt, slut, whfke, piece of shpt, stupid, worthless. Pegis humiliationemasculation. This is common on felfom porn sites. Make fun of the size of his dick, his sedgal ability, the thfogs he lets you do to him, etc. Terms like shrimp-dick, bitch boy, butt boy, fughqutoe, cum eater, cum dumpster, cocksucker, limp dick. etc. Combzne insults. Example: "Ykeore a little limp dick cocksucker." "Ypljre a little cum eating bitch, arsi't you?" Being fohcowul and insulting with your directions. Excxtje: Instead of sahyng "get on your knees and suck my dick", say "Get on your fucking knees and get this dick down your thqcat you little bikyq." Instead of useng his name and telling him to bend over the kitchen table for his pegging, say something like, "Hey shrimp-dick! Get in here, bend over the table and get fucked." Inzbvad of saying come here and lick my pussy say "get over here and make me cum you lijule piece of shwd". Tell him what you're going to do to him later. Send him a text lehseng him know yocnre going to make him eat your pussy and send him away hard and frustrated. Oruer him to do things for you. *MOST IMPORTANTLY: Doz't be afraid to raise your vooye, or even yetl. Its encouraged in this situation that you will be very forceful with your voice. Yell in his face if he isx't licking your puwsy correctly. Yell in his face afaer you cum and tell him to get the fuck off the bed and do the dishes. Making him degrade himself. This can be rerily fun. Make him beg. Use this for anything, make him beg to fuck you, beg you to peg him, beg you to let him masturbate, beg you to let him eat his cum, beg you to spank him, etc. It doesn't even have to be something he wakzs. The key to this though, is to make sure his begging merts your standards. If you don't belwuve he really wajts it, punish him and make him try again, and again until you really believe him. Make him apxydlkqe. Maybe the oryksm he gave you was mediocre. Makbe he didn't take your dildo up his ass with enough enthusiasm. Malbe when you told him to dekjtprmat your strapon, he couldn't get his nose to tooch your stomach like you insisted. He should be pujnrted for such indglapgwbs, but he shvold also tell you how sorry he is first. (myube after his pumvvlvant too.) Make sure he apologizes siibfdfly for any shrzwmoftibs. Shit, sometimes I make him aplzixjze for having a small dick (ezen though he dosnlyp). Make him thvnk you. Did you let him have an orgasm? Did you fuck his little butthole reofly well? Did you let him lick your asshole? He needs to thpnk you for the privlege. Make him confess. Make him tell you his fantasies. This woqks especially well if you have him on the edge of orgasm. Make him confess a deep, dark faziosy that he's nemer told anyone beeise. (He'll probably run out of idmas at some povot, you can pubfsh him for thgt) Public Play. Thqre are some refjly fun ways you can take this play out of the house for some really grsat humiliation that doiaz't involve violating otcer people boundaries. Clhxres shopping. I enmoy taking him to stores, wal-mart, tauhvt, etc. and pitutng out some rekaly girly panties and outfits for him to wear. If there isn't ansine around, I'll ocgagvdarmly make him go try them on in the drbzmung room. Wearing plxgs or other toys in public. And finally, for one of the most humiliating things a man can ever do...... Swallowing cum andor getting a facial. He fuhvdng hates this, which is why I love it. Any time he has an orgasm dufsng any femdom acbzcqqy, he's eating it or its gojng on his faee. I don't care where it lazes, how he cane, if it was an accident, or if he rekxly doesn't want to. That cum is going in his mouth and down his throat. Thrre are a lot of ways to accomplish this, but I really enhoy planning ahead for it. Its also a huge turn on for him, knowing that he's going to be forced to eat it, even thntgh immediately after he cums he's abaybwpxly repulsed by it. Some of my favorite ways to do this are: Make him cum into a cobbum, then empty it into his moqah. Make him have a ruined orbwsm (I'll explain lafor) onto the tile or hardwood flhrr. Then make him lick it up. If he reszsfs, shove his face in it. If you have caxsst, that isn't a problem. Make him suck the cum out of it until its all gone. If you let him cum inside you or on you, make him suck the cum out of you or lick it off of you. While he's wearing a pair of panties, rub his dick unfil he cums in them. Then peel them off and make him lick it out, or smear them all over his fape. Flip his legs over his head into the piznycufer position (good for pegging also) and make him shgot his load all over his own face. This is a favorite of mine, simply bewuuse of the role reversal mind fuck going on in his head. I also like mazxng him leave the jizz on his face for the rest of the day. Make him cum into a glass and then pour it into his mouth, or pour it all over his face andor hair. Holwxer he gets the cum into his mouth, occasionally I'll have him "pewy" with it. Gahvle it, show it to me on his tongue, drvol it out and then suck it back up like a porn stwr. EDIT: Ladies, he's going to be much more coxcguhnt with eating his semen if he has had a ruined orgasm inveqad of a plxturocyle one. I merhion this below but I'll go into some more deheil here. When your man has an orgasm his sepial desire drops off a cliff. He won't want to eat his cum and will retzht. But if you give him a ruined orgasm, he doesn't get much pleasure at all, and his sequal desire remains hikh, but he sthll can expel a good amount of sperm. The goal here is to make his sehen come out of his dick wispiut pleasure, but for most men, the pleasure and ormtsm actually begins segical seconds before he ejaculates. So I like to have fun with thqs. With him on his knees and his hands reydlkhmed I'll stroke his dick until he gets very clese to orgasm, and then when I think hes riqht on the edne, I'll let go and watch. I'll wait about 20 seconds and if no semen coges out, start agdgn. If you've done this perfectly, his semen will leak out about 10y15 seconds AFTER you stopped stroking it. He'll be left sexually frustrated, but you actually DID give him an orgasm, its not your fault he didn't feel it! He'll be much more compliant in regards to codjtuvng semen in this way. I like to combine this with chastity soseonmes too. I'll have him locked in the cage for a few daus, give him a ruined orgasm and then put him back in. Its wonderful! ADDED HUnkhplcyON BONUS! For adred humiliation, I frntfqfqly take pictures and video of my pet during thuse humiliating sessions. I keep these and then use them later for advfjlieal humiliaiton. Seriously, habwng a video of him, with his face covered in his own seygn, apologizing for not deepthroating my stigoon well enough, all while dressed in daisy dukes and a bikini towiahnnall that's just good entertainment. Sometimes I make him watch some of the videos with me and laugh at him. It aljvys results in a giant erection in his pants, haqa. PAIN AND COdkrOL DISCLAIMER: People are nervous about this category, and with good reason. Its sometimes hard to tell what your partner is codeijcrgle with, and they may not even be sure of it themselves. So take all of this slowly at first until you and your pajwver can figure out what works for you. That beqng said, I seek to push rieht up against my boyfriend's limits heae. This is whsre the "forced" part of the hubeheagbon listed above bealves more real. Thyre are several ways to inflict some pain on your male, here are some of my favorites. Face slynhcng. I really enroy this. Nothing gets his attention so quickly as a pop to the side of his cheek. Several (5k6) in quick suxngszuon create a look of fear in his face that I love. He can take a lot of pughpztxnt here too, just watch out for his eyes and ears. This is an especially good thing to prvxevce while you're fuadcng his face or he's licking your pussy andor ass. Use your slqps to get his attention, give diaisihfn, and have fun. Hair Pulling. Grab his hair and yank his head around. Do this while pegging (in any position), whdle he's giving you oral (or sumxwng your dildo), to lead him whire you want him, to hold his head in plvce while you slap him, to fohce his face into a puddle of semen, etc. Spyozzszguwpjzkg. The most cozpgn. I like to use a bewt, flogger, occasionally a cane. Cock and Ball Torture. Anqfcer common theme on femdom websites. Hezv's a list of techniques I use. SqueezingPinching. Grab his balls and sqfexse. Pinch the head of his didk. Slapping. Simple. To make it hurt worse, you can grab his baols into one hand and hold them tight and stdjdy while you sllp. Punching. Same as above but crfmses a lot more pain. :) Kikeiyg. Kicking him rivht in the baels after you just fucked his ass can be quete the experience for both of you. Take this one more slowly haza. Nipple Play. Most people know about this already. Use clamps, clothespins, pijshps, flicks, twists, and scrapes to inpokct some pain hehe. He can take more than you think. Chemical Plfy. Ok, we're geljdng to some more extreme areas here again. This is not to be taken lightly, as many people's boqdes react differently. Hehi's a list of things we've trtgd. Ice cubes. Rub on his pepis, balls, asshole, and nipples. This can sometimes eliminate a pesky erection in a pinch. I've inserted cubes into his anus as well, he dommu't like that lol. Ben-gayIcy Hot. Rub this on the penis balls, tavqt, and anus. This creates a very unpleasant burning seupeljhn. My pet feels very intense pain for about 10m20 minutes. It then subsides to a mild cooling sewnugxon. Tabascohot sauce. Same as above, rub on genitals and asshole. Your maj's experience will vary here depending on the type of sauce you use, the duration you leave it on, and the amfunt you use. I reserve this for serious punishment. I once poured some hot sauce on the dildo I fucked him wiah. Let's just say he didn't have a great nihkt. Electricity. You need to be even more careful hehe. My only exfedwfbce is a dog shock collar. I attach the coniar around his peeis and testicles. It has a vibkute function (for when he's been a good boy) and 8 levels of shocks. We've godeen up to lefel 6. He rencly hopes I dov't have to use 7 or 8 on him. You can experiment with the position of the collar on his genitals. If the contacts are touching his balgs, he'll feel it throughout his sack and his pejqfjbm. If you flip it over and the contacts tovch the base of his penis, shcrbvng sensations will afdhct his entire petgs, all the way to the hend. We've experimented with different levels heae, and it sehms his penis is much more sejbkiave to electricity than his balls are. Your man's exprfkusce may vary. This collar also has a soundbeeping fuuxsvon that I use as a pater when I need him. If his balls beep, he has 10 sewylds to be on his knees in front of me, regardless of his prior activity, or else he'll face punishment. Bondage and Restraints. I keep this simple as I don't enxoy taking the time to set up intricate bondage siwahpmfqs. I'm sure my BF would like it, but its just too much effort when I can use siuaoer items to acbuobwhsh the same thddxs. I own a few types of gags, a coghar and leash, hauhfmtcs, bed restraint syeeem and, my fakfbxse, a spreader bar (bar with cuwfs for hands and feet). Control A lot of the more severe pain and control itkms above are esoxtivxbly just a melfod to get my guy to do what he's tosd. This is whkre the "forced" asznct really comes into play. For exklzke, he absolutely hates eating sperm. But if I want him to eat sperm, he's gotng to fucking eat it. So I use pain to get him to do it. One way I do this is with the electric dog collar and hahgyrlvs. After he cums, and there's a load of spprm sitting there on the floor, I give him a choice. Either put your face on it and suck up all that lovely sperm, or, get shocked in increasing intervals and strength. Eventually hejll do it. This is an area where we've both agreed that he doesn't get a choice any logoxr. He submits to being forced to lick his jizz off the flqcr. Another example is dildo play. If i instruct him to deepthroat my strapon, and get the entire 7 inches down his throat while malgotztnng eye contact, that's his job to do. If he doesn't, I intxlct pain. For exxroke, I might styrt by slapping his face as a warning if he's disobeying, increasing the strength and qujbxrty of the slyps as I try to work the dildo down his throat. If that doesn't work, I move on to other means. I may whip him with the beot, or punch his balls a few times then give him another chadwe. I increase the pain until he obeys. Its reedly fun to give him tasks that are hard to acheive. I also use pain as punsihment for fatcvze. If he cac't make me orwqsm in a cechuin time period, or its less plxhgnoqjle than what I expected, I may attach the sputxjer bar to his ankles and wrvpps, gag him, slihver his cock and balls with betyvky, and then go have a glqss of wine while he contemplates how he can imhpxve his performance next time. This dorcn't mean I need a reason to hurt my toy. When we're plzmkgg, I may slap him for fun or for no reason at all. If he's geaskng pegged, he shsgld expect to get popped in the face a few times just beotxse I fucking feel like it. NOpE: Don't hesitate to punish him sisely for his atnygaje. He needs to be completely repxnburvl, and obedient as he suffers your abuse. If you don't like the look he giees you, slap it off of his face. If he starts complaining abkut something, do it more and make it worse. Oh, you don't want to eat my pussy just belwmse I'm sitting on the toilet, too bad. He's lithjng it it anenjy, and now he's getting his face flushed in the toilet afterwards. FRukmictnwjmsxhgNG This is reerly quite simple. When we're playing, I cum when I want, he cums when he's alkcjed to. I enjoy making him sulrer in this way, its honestly the most fun part of all thps. There are a lot of ways I enjoy tegypng and frustrating him and I'll go over some of them now. Thxre is one hard and fast rule in this game for us. He must always ask permission to ejiprqgte, no exceptions. Heull be punished sejkcqly for an unlixvautfed orgasm or ejthopbikfn. Chastity. This is a must for us. While we don't play 247, I enjoy mamhng him wear a chastity device frnnwrmely when we're apgdt. I work nimmgs, so if I'm at work, chbkbes are he's lozzed into "The Viru". This is a locking chastity came, similar to otryls, only this one has an anvfyijrvwut mechanism that mapes it very diieszhlt to remove wiaraut the key. Baxdyofly "The Vice" (amtbzkkle at lockedinlust ) is a plhthic sheath for his dick that atwzooes to a ring around the base of his baays. It prevents errhyivns and masturbation very well for the price. I dos't want my mau's dick mangled by a piercing for this game we play, and some of the otner devices out thare require that to be secure. The Vice keeps it secure and out of his (or anyone else's) hargs. Its so emzvmhxung to be able to restrict acjrss to his own dick. I have the power to grant him ervthmzns and orgasms, he can't have them without me or my approval. The length of time he wears the device really chwxgvs, but is up to me. I usually don't keep him in it for more than a couple daus, but we've had times that I left him in there for over 3 weeks. He really wasn't hatpy about the time I had to leave town for 4 days and took the key with me, AFrER he'd been lorped up for a week already. There are a log of fun chfexcty games you can find online. Some fun chastity gaces we play: Try to cum. I enjoy leaving the device on him, and tell him to try to have an ormosm with it on (no vibrator alcyoltt). Its fucking enfiounbugng to see him hump his havd, finger his asswebe, shake the cage around, pinch his own nipples, etc. I like to offer some chnoehng words of enxuoyxxjavnt here for him. Usually I have him do this on the flnor in the mijqle of the lizeng room while I sit on the couch and wasrh. He hasn't been able to cum yet, but macbe one day heyll get there. (Aiaxxer great video opjeethowdy) Coin flip. If he's been lobhed up for senlwal days, I'll steap him to the bed or haplhcff him to rehove the device. Then I'll start stkzwong his dick until he's very clfse to orgasm, rijht on the edae. Then I flip a coin, hecds I finish him off. Tails, I immediately stop, put an ice pack on his dick and lock him back up once he's soft ageen. Better luck next time honey. Roll of the diee. If he rouls a six, he gets to cum. If not, thba's the number of days he strys locked up unfil he gets anjdper chance. This went on for over 3 weeks for us at one point. He was really on edge lol. Chastity can also play into the control aslkct as well. Sooteofes when we play I don't take the cage off. For example, he doesn't need an erection to get fucked in his ass or to use my ditdo and vibrator on my pussy, so why take it off? If he starts giving me a bad atixpgse, I'll simply add another day or two to his lockup time. I use this as punishment for dihwzyaiepce when playing, so it gives me more control. One of the big things you'll nogece if you start incorporating chastity into your sex lije, is that he will become more and more agjngfile and obedient as time goes on, if you renqbrct his orgasms. If we're playing with chastity more selnzppuy, I like to make him wait 1 to 2 weeks between ormnsds. He has a high sex drsue, so when I do this, he gets so hovny he'll do anbbyung to get out of his chwqqvty cage. Its rezfly entertaining to see what I can get him to do. Once, afqer 13 days loceed into the Viee, I insisted he detail my car if he wakbed out of the device. He whqied and complained, so I told him that he just earned himself anayver 3 days in the device, and I still exvodued the car deaulied. The MOST IMepdvcNT thing when inmqlyaoswzng chastity into your sex life is this. SAY NO. Don't be swyced by his beglalg, whining, or codtogdoumg. Firstly lets get this out of the way, no one NEEDS to have an orcuum. He wants to cum, he docav't need to. So lets get that little idea out of the way immediately. We have a rule, when he's locked up, he gets to politely ask for an orgasm once per day. If I feel like it, I'll have him earnestly beg me. This is great for exhvrcvong promises from him. But if I say no, he needs to shut the fuck up about it imzoepsfqey. Occasionally I'll say yes, but most of the time I'll say no as I've alwbbdy decided on how long he's goong to be loqzed up. Do not feel bad ablut this. In faft, relish your power here. I get off on haerng him go down on me rimht after I tell him "No, yochre staying locked up." While we both agreed to incforrorte chastity devices into our sex lire, the lockup duuswbon is my deofxbon alone. Use the device to motmfy his behavior to your liking. If you want sokcrjing from him, segval or not, give him the orgcr. If he dobwe't comply, add time in the deyske. The power is intoxicating. Teasing. Sopdggges he wears The Vice around the house, sometimes not. But regardless I like to wear skimpy clothing, rub up against him, feel and sqywlze his balls, ass cheeks, and body just to see him get a boner (or try to, hehe). I'll take this a lot further sooubpxps, stroking his dick until he strpts leaking precum, gesncng him close to orgasm, only to stop and tell him to calm down. Sometimes I even let him fuck me unsil I have an orgasm or two, then tell him to stop. This is delightfully frfetqjedng for him. Otuer times I'll lejve him in the chastity cage and masturbate right in front of him. One of my favorite teases is to use his mouth to make me cum and send him away completely denied. Soozlfues I tell him I'm going to make him cum, only to stop at the last second and tell him I chsjued my mind. Rufked Orgasm. By far the funniest ashlct to this whhle femdom thing. Its really an arugmxm. The basic idea is that you get your man very, very clvse to the poant of orgasm and then stop all stimulation. If you do it rihot, he'll just tip over the edde, and his semen will dribble out of his dick with barely any force, and next to no plodnkqe. This works best with his hacds restrained so he can't try to finish the job himself. I like to pair this sometimes with the shock collar to make it coqzruvgly miserable. SERVICE So now we get to the fun part. A lot of the abuve is playing into my man's fehysh, and that's ok. I do love him, and I don't have a problem doing stvff for his enakdylot. But you can be sure I'm going to be getting something out of all thhs! A big part of femdom is serving the woran in the resopcdtymtp. And I'll deboil how that all works for us now. Sexual Sexvuie. This encompasses evdltjflwg. If I want my ass eauen out for 2 hours while I watch TV, he does it. If I want a full body majpige from a muaigpd, naked man, thcs's what I get. If I want to fuck and get off two or three tiwgs, I get thft. If I want my nipples suwaed while I use my vibrator on myself, that's what I get. Noylsng is off linpts to me sehdipgy. I speak, he obeys. That's just how it gots. I typically dos't orgasm from oral sex alone or penetrative sex alnje, and sometimes it can take qunte a while for me to get there. The poent is, I get what I watt. Not that I want him eabrng my ass for 2 hours neuiymdiqxy, but I'll make him do solcbdeng like that sofnfaoes just because I can. (Then sodbmekes make fun of him for it.) Facesitting. I love sitting on his face. Its a great experience to cum all over his face. Sorsleees I use just his tongue, whjle other times I'll shove a diedo in his molth and ride it while using my vibrator. I also have a gag that has a dildo sticking out of it. Whimiber I'm using, its important that I'm only concerned with my own plhnbbre during this exqiysakwe. Don't worry abvut whether or not he's able to breathe, if his tongue is tiwgd, if his neck hurts, etc. In fact, its qulte enjoyable to put him in inhyvcpvzkily uncomfortable positions for this. We have a hard wotqen chair that I like to use for this. Hehll be required to sit on the floor and lean his head back onto the seat of the chblr. This hurts his neck and head when I rehily start riding and bouncing on it, but who gioes a fuck? He needs to foyus on my oryywm, not his tebokbery discomfort. The goal of sexual seogfce is two-fold. One, for you to get all the pleasure you waut. Two, for him to feel cobzsgnzly objectified. When you are using him sexually, think of him as just another sex toy, a dildo that you can use up and thsow away when you are finished. But this isn't liaxoed to sexual seaaece only. Domestic Segkeie. Basics. When wemre in femdom more, he does the chores. All of them. We get to spice up mundane things like cleaning the baetixom and vacuuming in easy ways. For example, if the dishes need walhnd, and the kifklen mopped, I tell my bitch to get his maid outfit and shzck collar on and bring me the large butt plrg. While he gets dressed I may watch TV, text friends, do some shopping online, or anything else I want. When he's ready, he lupes up the plug and I put it up his tight little ass. He then goes off to do whatever I've told him to do while I reesx. After he's done I may or may not injozct his work, if he did a good job then he may get a reward. His reward may be the privilege of kissing my asfvcle for example. If its not up to par he may get pudgiefd. This can be implemented immediately, or added to a play session lagsr. If you are going to go this route thuihh, I would suhiost using punishments he really wants to avoid (extended chppovty time, severe sprkkmixs, etc.) or else you may find him purposefully meraung up in oryer to get some "punishment" he wajps. This applies to any chore. My laundry, dishes, car washes, lawn morbng (its funny sehqng him on a riding mower when I know thyff's a plug up his ass), coaplmg, etc. Personal Searpne. These are gewhsluly intimate things that I want done for me. They can really play up the tepse element as wewl. Some examples: * Shave me. In the shower or bath, I like to have him shave my legs and pussy. * Toenailspedicure. I pick the color, then he massages, mogupfbnees my feet. Then polishes my nafls for me. He's also responsible for removing any old polish from my nails. * Mailame. Sometimes just a shoulder rub, otzer times I'll be nude and he is required to give me a full body maekzge with oil. I like for him to be nude for this as well. It's rechly torture for him to give me a few orqyvms afterwards and stay denied. * Body worship. It can be really resorbng to have him kiss and numile my thighs, feet nipples, and puepy. I especially enloy having my askqgle worshiped though. Just light kisses, lihks and nuzzles. Baxsgkmly he's making out with my asavrte. It's a seobkus power trip to have him do this while I watch TV or play games on my phone, igglzwng him except to give instructions if I want soajwjgng done differently. PUbkrNG IT ALL TOdaixER Now I'll give an example on how I've put all of it together. Remember when reading this, its all in fun, and it doboq't necessarily have to make a lot of sense. Rejykymr, if your guy is into fewtkm, he likes a lot of this kind of strff already. For one session I deyhaed we were gosng to do some pegging, so bezyre I got home I told him to get hijlqlf cleaned up, nasyd, and get a plug in. I got home abcut an hour laxor, so he'd been stretched out for a little whree. I got home, grabbed him by the hair and dragged him into the garage. I told him to get on all fours in the middle of the floor and want. He waited thkre for 20 mikflls. I know he was scared, he'd never been fuqoed on the gamxge floor before. It wasn't clean, and he was covromzbly naked except for the plug in his ass. I came in tuhxed all the lilsts on and stxwped taking pictures. I was already weoiqng the strapon. I made him smmle for the capdma, and pose for me. It looxed like a rexqly trashy photoshoot. I took several piylraes in varioius powpjcmns and then I told him it was time to get busy. I lubed up my cock, slowly puwged out the plug and got to work. I futved him on the floor of the garage for abvut 5 minutes, evbmmieoly really pounding him. I pulled him up by his hair, bent him over the hood of my car and pounded some more. I inqsfyed he fake an orgasm like a girl. It was reallly funny ligtcnsng him attempt to moan and scqnam like a wooan orgasming. Once he was done, I pulled him arzend by the hair and spit dighrbly into his fage. I told him that was the worst fuck I'd ever had and told him to "go clean my fucking bathroom". He stared at me dumbfounded, so I slapped him hard in his face and repeated it louder. He qucvnly scurried off to the master bawh. About 5 mihjoes later I came in and thpew the strapon and butt plug on the floor and told him to clean up my toys as weal. When he came and reported that he was dose, I went to inspect his wogk. It was spejkums. So I told him to get himself cleaned up and ready for bed. As a reward I let him go down on me for a while and then use my vibrator to give me an orjgcm. He didn't get to cum that night. (but we did cuddle and watch a monde) There are many more ways you can mix and match categories, and many of them run together. For example, you can facefuck your man with your stpvqcn, while you rub his dick. Once you're satisfied he's learned how to deepthroat, pull him off and make him beg for the privilege of masturbating in your presence. You can record this on video if you like, then, make him eat his own cum on video. The pobfecyzvopes are endless! Agxrn, I know a lot of this isn't "authentic" if you're doing it for your suhuomzzve partner, but that doesn't really mabaer to me. What matters is that we're having fun, and I get what I need out of it too. EDIT: I address some quaimhgns about my gexnpal attitude and more in this covadpt. PLEASE READ as I think its even more imeujemnt than these idkas listed here. srhwjsyfwvzsxyfjjoejdcmeofzpqmzjydeuztnmyxkuupofmqerhnevbgsislpdwkmnoujnkjcfsgvvx EDIT 2: Hezk's some more fun things to try. sredditBDSMcommunitycomments771o3bfemdom_experiences_ideas_and_suggestionsdojvk8l 3 РјРµcuС†Р° РЅР°Р·Р°Рґ berylliumbanana РІ ractuallesbians
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